The strategies employed by wars in Ancient China are obsolete by today’s standards. However, these strategies still hold significant value for our everyday lives. Most people (without realizing it) apply competitive strategies to ensure victory and to avoid loss in our social, professional, and emotional lives. The purpose of this project is to discuss how emotional intelligence can help people achieve success in every area of their lives and especially in their ability to establish emotional connections with others. This discussion will be based on the concept that emotional intelligence is essential for the strategies we use to progress in our lives. It is particularly important when by begin to form new and intimate relationships.